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Encountering a new journey through Heart to Heart® Cafe
By: Stephanie
On 26 September 2021, I was invited to be a co-facilitator with Eunice, to conduct a Heart to Heart® Cafe through zoom, with a group of beautiful Taiwanese ladies, mostly living in the States except one living in Taiwan. Indeed, it was an awesome experience. Before this, I was hoping to lead people from South East Asia countries, since this is my second attempt of being a co-facilitator. I must admit that I do have concerns since we are from a different cultural background. As we have begun, my fear has slowly died off, probably due to their Taiwanese's accent, voices that comforted me since I am a regular visitor to Taiwan.
Although it was our first meeting, we do not feel distance at all, the ambience was as if we knew each other for some time, having our afternoon tea, sharing our ups and downs, with much laughter and yet speaking about a taboo topic in our culture. I was so amazed by their openness and it's my great blessing to learn from them too. Is there a culture shock? Not for me, our concern, mainly surrounded by our filial piety towards our parents, which is the same concern most Malaysian have.
Through Heart to Heart® Cafe, I have learnt that filial responsibility does not limit us as caregiver only but also include advance care planning, medical decision planning and end of life care. For those who have yet to join this lovely “café”, I would strongly encourage you to join CACCC next Heart to Heart® Cafe session, learning how to speak to peoples we love through a tea/coffee session without any heavy heart; to perform part of our filial responsibilities without any regrets.
Hope to see you soon!
第一次接觸安心茶話屋是在 2021 年 6 月。事實上，我是一名“新鮮出爐”的安心茶話屋志工，剛剛在七月完成了安心茶話屋引導員訓練。我非常感謝美華慈心的創辦人，陳明慧護理師。她願意培訓一位萍水相逢的馬來西亞人，讓我能夠親身體驗這段美好的旅程。
2021 年 9 月 26 日，通過zoom, 我有機會成為 Eunice 的安心茶話屋引導人夥伴，與一群漂亮的台灣女士，一起聊天、喝茶、討論生死議題。確實，這是一次很棒的經歷。在此之前，我希望能被安排帶領東南亞區域的安心茶話屋活動，因為這是我第二次當引導人, 經驗膚淺。當我知道他們都不是來自我熟悉的區域，再加上來自不同的文化背景，我開始擔心，這可能會有冷場, 怎麼辦？很訝異的，當我們的活動開始進行時，我的恐懼漸漸消失了。可能是因為他們的台灣口音安慰了我，因為臺灣是一個我很常去的地方。
雖然這是我們第一次見面，但彼此並不感到陌生，感覺上我們好像認識了一段時間，就好比一群好朋友在喝下午茶，分享我們的酸甜苦辣，有說有笑的討論華人文化中的一個禁忌話題。我對他們侃侃而談的分享感到訝異，我也很感恩能向他們學習。你可能會問我在談話過程中你沒有遇到文化衝突嗎？對我來說沒有，我們所關心的主題都圍繞著「孝道」兩個字，這與大多數馬來西亞人所關心的話題都很相似。
通過安心茶話屋，我了解到孝道不僅限於我們做為父母的照顧者，還包括要預先安排療護計劃、醫療決策計劃和臨終關懷。對於那些還沒有機會參加安心茶話屋的朋友，我強烈建議您參加美華慈心舉辦的安心茶話屋，學習如何以輕鬆的方式與我們所愛的人談生死議題，履行我們這部分的孝道。
希望我們很快能再相見！
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